“An advisor will fulfill the Way when he makes a decision by selfless and frank intelligence because he is not personally involved.” –Yamamoto Tsunetomo

Getting others input on your situation. This does not mean you go around asking your firends for input, simply because they love you too much and still want to be firends with you so they won’t tell you the whole truth. However ask an advisor(supervisor, mentor, professor, life coach etc.) even if it is someone who you look upto and trust. You will find most people do not make good advisors but you will find some whom provide you with valuable information, the trick is to pick out and keep good advisors. Qualities that Yamamoto mentions to look for in an advisor are selflessness, intelligence and no personal involvment.

Decisions like running every day, or doing better on the next term paper, or waking up for fajar(morning prayer) are only exciting until there is motivation. Once the motivation is lost the sense of achievement is gone as well. At this point we start magnifying obstacles thus becoming focused on obstacles rather than the results that they are trying to achieve. In long term this makes us forget and even forfeit the decision that we made while we were in highly motivational state.

In cases like this a life coach can help you clarify what is it that you want and how important is it to you personally? What are different ways of achieving it and what sort of obstacles you are likely to face and how can you avoid them. Your life coach will help you achieve clarity about your goals and make them smart goals which are measurable and positive. Your life coach will also hold you accountable for taking action, because we often dream but with lack of ACTION our dreams usually never come true.

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Do you wonder at times why you are not able to move on? Someone is doing something that you wish you could be doing or you can do better. You think to yourself and say if I was doing this, this is how I would do it and this is how it would be much better. The only reason you are not doing it is because you are not doing anything, here you can give me a list of your excuses but you know deep down they are just excuses. You are not doing the thing that matters to you the most instead you are busying yourself with things that have less significance in your life. You know you are too busy why you don’t have time to dream

How can I change this you ask? The simplest way to do this is by knowing you want from your day as clearly as possible. If you do not take control of your time other people will. The best way to take control of your day is to plan it out the night before or early in the morning. The most effective way I have found for this is to get an index card and write out the most important tasks that I want to get done that day. I then priorities them by writing numbers besides them 1 being the most important task, this is to be done before anything else once #1 is done I cross it out and move onto #2 and so on. This has worked for many people and you wouldn’t know if it works for you unless you try it out. Try this out for a week and let me know how this worked for you.

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What to do in this case? Usually the first thing you need to do is get a clear picture of what is it that you want to move towards. So for example if you are over weigh you might think to yourself that you want to lose wight. I would say this is not the best approach, don’t think about losing weight but rather focus on the person you would like to become. Perhaps you might want to be physically fit, perhaps you want to be able to run a marathon perhaps you want to achieve better health and clear state of thinking. Whatever it is that you want to move towards to get a clear picture, yes I do mean a real picture by using your imagination think to yourself what is it that you would like to move towards to. By just doing this you will be moving yourself one step closer to becoming the better you.

Next step:Why you need to make your dreams become reality

What changes would this bring to your thinking, how would this effect your motivation, would your growth be effected by this? By answering these questions you will realize that if you weren’t able to dream your motivation will become stagnant your thinking will become boring and you will have no exciting ideas to look forward to. The good thing is that we are able to dream and that dreaming is Free for everyone.

Most people frown at dreams sometimes because dreams are only dreams, they are not real (yet). This is usually the thinking state of people who don’t take action to bring their dreams to reality. Without action your dreams sit under the sun of your thoughts and become like bleached bones which refuse to excite you anymore. The people who do bring their dreams to reality are the people who cherish their dreams, take direct action right away, they take action on their dreams they take a step no matter how small the step is they move forward. It has been said that: “journey of 1000 miles begins with one step”. Think about a practical step that you can take towards making your dream become a reality and take that step now! By doing this you will make your dream more exciting while bringing it closer to reality.

What would happen if you let your dream sit under the sun? That is for you to realize but keep in mind that your dream will benefit not only you but it will benefit others as well. These could be your friends your work associates your classmates, your siblings, your family most of all your fellow human beings. The choice is yours what you do with your dreams, now you know the power they have; you can begin to harness this power to your advantage and to advantage of others.